January 1, 2006
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Serving our Husbands!
I was reading over some things I wrote years ago. My heart is needing to be refreshed in reverencing my husband. I can’t remember what year it was but it has helped to encourage me to lay down my life for my husband TODAY and to bring God glory in serving him. Phil 2:2-7
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Going above and beyond serving our husbands
The household isn’t up yet. I can’t sleep. As I sit and write I am thinking about how hard my husband has been working lately. He has been literally dragging himself through the doors at night, physically exhausted from the demands of a days work. All to provide for his household. And even though his children are grown he still helps them anyway He can. Most of the family has their ‘hands’ in our business in one way or another. They know that if they have any needs that Pappa will do all he can to help him.
I want to find more ways to help this precious man of God lighten his load. I want to be his helpmate in a way that really ministers to him. So many times in the past I have sought to help him but it seemed that I leaned to my own convictions as to how he needed to be helped instead of really listening to what he needed at the time.
Sometimes it’s hard to keep focused on what our husbands are saying if they are over worked and stressed. If their needs come forth like demands we may tend to put up our bristles and resist them. But, I’ve found over the years that this is exactly when my husband needs me the most. At those precise moments He needs me to respond in a tone of gentleness and understanding when he is worn out. He needs my focus to be off of myself and onto him.
Learning to not take up offences has been more of a blessing than anyone thing I can think of in our marriage. For years I tended to quickly react to sharp words or criticism or a lack of what I deemed as ungratefulness. My focus was always on me and my needs. Slowly the Lord began teaching me to give those offences to Him and to not take into account a wrong suffered. 1 Cor. 13 Talk about the flesh dying hard! But, this one thing brought more change in our relationship than any thing else.
I’m asking the Lord to help me find more ways to minister to my husband this week. By God’s grace I’m going to ‘listen’ for those possible words of complaining that I haven’t focused on lately, to see if I’m missing something he really needs me to do. By God’s grace I’m going to set my mind to be a servant and keep his needs foremost in my mind throughout the day. I hope to not only keep his needs first in my day but to also find ways to go above and beyond what he expects of me.
Comments (15)
Happy New Year! It is hard to remember that we are one and not two separate parts in marriage and what we do for one we are doing for both. Great message! Your husband sounds like a true leader in his family and looks like he has a wife that stands behind him too! :O)
xoxoxo Cat
That’s a good prayer… “help me find more ways to minister to my husband this week”… I need to make it the first prayer in priority now more than ever.
Thank you for sharing what the Lord is speaking to you.
Suzanne
RYC: We have been praying for you there in California. Just wish there was some way to divert the flooding rains from there to the Texas & Oklahoma grass land here where we have wild fires.
Happy New Year. Hugs
Although I am a widow, the point you make in your post is a very good one. Marriages would be much better if all women took to heart what you have to say. HUGS
Hi there,
Your post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for posting this…such confirmation that This is what i’m to do also…and have struggled with it. Do everything as unto the Lord is what I keep hearing!! This is an encouragement to me to move forward and truly bless my husband and minister to him!!
Blessings, Hugs and Happy New Year!
Mindy
I truly believe that a wife’s prayers are what keeps a good man’s head above water. Prayer is first and foremost in this battle. And it is a battle. Our dear husbands are aging just like we are, yet they have to work along side men who may be much younger. It has to be tough some days. God bless our husbands!
Happy New Year! My husband is a hard worker as well. I wish he didn’t work so many hours, but I also know that he wants to provide his best for us. I want to have a grateful heart in this area too. Be blessed!
I just read a very thought-provoking post regarding this on http://www.xanga.com/beaner_beaner . Blessings, Chanin
Mmmmm….i love that soup recipe. i think i will have to try that! any recipe that starts out with olive oil and garlic is sure to be a pleaser to my palate!
i miss my husband greatly sometimes…..most of the rest of the time, i just miss him…
i hope that you are having a wonderful new year so far! may god richly bless you with good things in it!
RYC-What are the names of the books you got? I like to read things on simplifing.
What a sweet post! You truly have a heart of concern for your husband. thanks for posting what was on your heart. I pray I can do the same and be a listening ear to my husband and then follow through on his needs.
God bless you,
Faye
Hey- Thanks for commenting! Yay for another friend! I can’t wait to try your soup!
~Sharon
You put it SO well: “By God’s grace I’m going to set my mind to be a servant and keep his needs foremost in my mind throughout the day. I hope to not only keep his needs first in my day but to also find ways to go above and beyond what he expects of me.”
Amen, amen, amen! me too!
Thanks for the encouragement
I enjoyed reading your post. Thanks. I needed to hear it.
How does a young christian man find a women of such mindset and spiritual wisdom and guidence of God. This type of Godlyness is unseen today. God bless you for Being your Husbands Wife. -Jordan Bennet -Upstate NY 18 years old and searching.