May 15, 2006
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A guaranteed road to marital misery is to focus on your own needs and desires instead of how you can serve and minister to your husband.
If you are always thinking about the things he is NOT doing instead of what you CAN DO for him …
If you compare him to other husbands and he always comes out looking worst …
If you dwell on how unhappy you are because your husband doesn’t romance you….
If you’re miserable because your husband doesn’t give you enough affection….
If you’re miserable because your husband wants too much of YOUR affection…
If you read romance novels…
If you think about how great your life would be without your husband….
then beware that your marriage is headed for trouble.
BUT…
If you daily die to your own needs and desires and put your effort into how you can bless and serve your husband….
If you listen … really listen to what bothers him and what pleases him… and then adapt yourself to him…
If you think of ways to be more affectionate…
If you concentrate on his good points ….
If you pray for him, encourage him in the things of the Lord and obey God’s commands for a godly wife…
If you serve him the way you would serve the Lord…
then your marriage will be truly blessed.
Does that mean that it will line up with the romantic version that Hollywood portrays of a marriage? Most likely NOT. But, you will have the peace of conscience knowing that you are doing what you can to obey God’s commands. The results must remain with the Lord. Our eyes must be kept on OUR duty.
Phil 2:3-8
Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.
Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:
Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God:
But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:
And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.
Comments (7)
Whew! It seems that dying to self….sanctification…is a popular topic lately. I give a hardy AMEN! My thoughts on this are slanted a little differently, but definately similar and can be found here: http://destinationgloryland.blogspot.com/2006/05/holiness-and-sanctification.html
May God bless you Georgene! I haven’t commented much lately, but I come here frequently to read of the wisdom God has given you. Thank you!
THank you for this post. I found that I have a different view of my husband and things seem to be better in our marriage since I started praying for him and stopped trying to be his “Holy Spirit”, and praying that God would bless him and help him to be the man He wants him to be, not what I think he should be . God is growing my love for him.
i also have the original A and E version of the movie….it is 5 hours long!!! And I have watched it many times through my pregnancies…with my husband painting my toenails! It is great…and so is this one!!!!
Amen! “Been there, done that – didn’t work!” God’s ways always work though and His love (versus self love) NEVER FAILS!! I’m thanking God today for His long suffering and kindness in teaching us to be more like Him and to LAY DOWN our lives rather than SEEK THEM! Bless you for bringing the truth to the light and exposing the UNFRUITFUL deeds of darkness!
Thank you for the gentle reminder that I am not be to be Selfish but I am to be a True Servant and HelpMeet to My Beloved Husband.
Wounderful. This needs to be posted in each and every home as a reminder everyday that we are serve and walk in love. I’m newly married and its often hard to put my husbands needs before my own. Its staying in the word and in prayer that will empower us to die to self daily. Thank you for this God bless gracec2
Thanks so much for this. My husband and I have just come thru a major pothole in our marriage, but praise God…He has brought us thru with His glory. I needed to hear (read) this and allow the Holy Spirit to convict me of the areas that I needed to work on. Thanks, I’m going to be coming back to this post, frequently as a self-check to see how I’m doing….great list!