September 24, 2005
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1Proverbs 31:12 She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Our husband’s, at one time, initiated us. They set their affections and their hearts on us. They could have chosen any woman to be their wife but they put their trust in us. They put their confidence in us. Now, the Lord is saying through His Word that our response to that confidence is that we should do them good and not evil all the days of our lives. We’re to bring them good, not harm. That is to be our desire towards our husband.
When a husband leaves for work at the beginning of the day he leaves the affairs of his household in the hands of his wife. If he has a good, godly wife, he knows that he can trust her to manage his affairs wisely. He knows that the heart of his wife is to do him good and not bring him harm. He doesn’t have to be concerned that she will waste her time watching tv or that she will be out spending unnecessary money. His attention can be fully on his duties at work because he has full confidence in his wife’s ability to take care of his home, finances and children in a way that will do him good and not harm. His heart safely trusts in her decisions. He can leave the managing of the home in her hands.
This takes hard work on the wife’s part and a good track record. Notice that it says ALL the days of her life. It wouldn’t take long for a husband to lose his confidence in his wife’s management of the home and his affairs.
The remaining verses in Proverbs speak of the many areas that a wife manages on her husband’s behalf. These are all areas that she is to do good towards him. I was thinking of two specific areas of ‘doing good’ to our husbands this morning.
* Shopping: does she manage his wages wisely? A husband gives up hours of his life each day to provide for his family by the sweat of his brow. Will his wife use the money wisely in the managing of the home or will he feel as if she were a child that he could not trust to manage something as important as a household budget? This is an area that I am striving to do better in. I shared yesterday that I am trying to avoid waste in my grocery purchases. I’ve been watching different areas of my budget to see where I am over spending and praying for wisdom in how to tighten the reins.
* Worker: Will she do her husband good by not being lazy? Will she rise early or sleep in while he must get himself off to work? Will she use her time wisely while he is gone from the home and not watching over her? Or will she waste precious hours on the phone talking with friends or surfing the internet or shopping for unnecessary items?
After studying this verse I am so encouraged to find more ways to do GOOD to my husband today! How blessed it is to have a husband trust in us. Give us grace, dear Lord, to fulfill your Word towards our husbands.
Blessings!
Georgene
A Woman that Fears the Lord
Comments (2)
Thank you so much for this. My dh and I have been married almost 18 yrs. We both had alot to learn. I’m still learning, in all areas of being a married women. It wasn’t until a few yrs ago that I began asking for God’s help in it. He is still working, His grace is new every morning. He is faithful to finish the task.
Hello!
I’m STILL learning, too! I’m humbled daily by what I know to do and fail to do OR by what I still need to learn! Praise God for His faithfulness and mercy!
Blessings,
Georgene